Wedding Belle Du Jour?!

Well that's it! C'est fini! My life is complete and officially over. 


As the old saying goes... "All I refuse, and thee I chuse"


My maid of honour dropped this pearl of wisdom just before I walked up the aisle: "Mrs" is actually a derivative of "Mistress", which in turn didn't mean a bit on the side but more "Head of the Household". This made me giggle, but also made me question which one I'd prefer!



The registers signed, and we now have an official piece of paper to prove it. Does this mean my life is over? The ball and chain dragging behind me as the shackles of life tie me down. Never to speak to anyone again as any title but someone else's property?  Does a ring on my finger and name change really mean that much? These questions have been swirling in my mind for the past few weeks.



To be fair, I'm not exactly a feminist. Yes; I'm quite happy to be the cook and cleaner; I believe it's lovely to have a man open a door for me or buy me a drink but that's about as far as it goes. Anything else and I get antsy. The thought of being "owned" brings a chill to my spine. It's like being compared to a car, or a house and I'm not the materialistic type...


It took me till this morning to realise; it dawned on me, so long as I'm known as Jennie last names are irrelevant. I am the master of my own life, I am still just me! It's funny how others opinions can really get to you. Life will carry on just as it did before. We had a lovely party to celebrate the "officialness" of us in front of family and friends but overall, it's been official for many years. 


We made it through the chaos and madness of a wedding and out the other side. I have a husband who loves and (tries to) understand(s) me, even with my quirks. Therefore technically making him crazy himself.......


C'est certainement la fin... Well, of this chapter anywho.

Don't you just love ignorance...

If you hadn't heard, bigmouth Rod Liddle wrote a lovely article about "made up disabilities" in the Sun...

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2012/01/26/rod-liddle-pretend-disabled_n_1233281.html

It's not very often I get angry, but this really got to me! As a campaigner for auto-immune system disorders, and a former sufferer myself I would absolutely LOVE to have a chat with this man about how, obviously, I was being lazy and wanted to spend a few years in and out of a wheelchair so that I didn't have to go to school. Of course, this goes for all sufferers!

What a twonk.  'Nuff said.  GRRR!

January part 2

January's doom and gloom seems to carry on and on, will it never end? I'm not going to even mention the opening batting of our boys down in Dubai.. ...Well actually, I will. 

My high hopes for this year went flying out the window within a space of a few hours yesterday. What a crap start!  I got up this morning hoping it was all a dream, we'd done ok at least and onwards and upwards. I then downloaded a Live Cricket app for my Windows phone, only to discover the scorecard racking up runs for Pakistan. I then realise in my frustration of seeing this news; that I'm talking loudly at my phone as I walk down the street to work with quite a few strange looks on the way. Great start to the day Jennie, just great. The day just carried on in this tone...

In other news, I was saddened to hear of Dave Lees' passing on Monday. Cancer is a terrible disease which effects not only the sufferer but everyone around them.  Dave did wonders for his charity, Happy Holidays, and I managed to have the pleasure of fund raising with him once. Professional and passionate to the core he was a gem to know. 


On a happier note. T minus 10 days and counting till the big one. Even better it's 11 days till I can stop stressing!

A knock back for Chronic Fatigue/ ME Sufferers..

http://www.abc.net.au/news/2012-01-06/virus-theory-for-chronic-fatigue-dismissed/3761308


Anyone who knows me knows about the battles I have had in my life with my immune system... The link to the above is quite sad news for CFS sufferers all over. I've never been one to hold out hope on having CFS "pinned" but it would have been nice to have confirmation of at least how it started. The doctors at GOSH were convinced I developed mine through a bout of Glandular Fever, but I guess we'll never know for sure. All I know is that I made it though to the other side.


This is something that does not tend to get in my way these days, however, after such a stressful week in the world of me, the dreaded symptoms return. I've got a nice cuddly bottle of Maalox (As well as my other vitamins and boosts) sitting beside me waiting for the fun to commence...


I highly recommend reading this link for the Spoons Theory, not for myself, but encase you know of anyone with Lupus, CFS, Fibromyalgia or practically any immune system disorder. You may have never even heard of these conditions, but I bet you that you know someone who has one of them: http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory-written-by-christine-miserandino/

This link made me cry when I first read it, in the years of being ill I was never once able to put how I felt into words. It's helped me a lot and perhaps it might help you.

January Blues/ New years Resolutions

Where to start eh?

Christmas has been and gone. I've eaten far too much, drank even more than I should do and I've got a wedding dress to fit into in less than 3 weeks. Yes, that's right.. 3 WEEKS!

Booking a wedding in January may have been the cheaper way forward, but it certainly was not the cleverest. Early morning runs and gym visits have been occurring in a desperate effort to remove any form of Christmas fat!

My 2011 New Year's Resolution was actually to shop local as and when I could manage it.  I really made improvements on this resolution throughout the year. This year I intend to stick with it. I've really taken to walking down into Herne Bay in the afternoons and shop in the little shops rather than the big supermarkets. I'm a lot healthier for it (When I resist the temptation of a Rook's sausage roll...) The town seems to be really bustling at the moment,  with only one shop closed on the high street, we're doing pretty damn well overall in the financial climate.

Hopefully when the parking restrictions come into place down Mortimer Street,  it'll make it even busier.  The Bay card has done wonders and the cafe culture really suits the town. I can think of nothing better than sitting outside, even in Winter and having a nice big coffee... MMMmm.. Coffee. Time for a walk methinks!

Introductions..

I thought I'd start this blog off on the right foot and introduce myself with some random facts:

1. I am afraid of silence. It makes me uncomfortable. Hence why I never shut up. Maybe blogging is the way forward?

2. I am one of the most optimistic people you'll ever meet. Everyone has low points in life, it's how you deal with it that counts. I let little things frustrate me, but I soon deal with it logically and move on.

3. I only have a select few friends. Friends are the family you choose for yourself.  I found this out the hard way.

4. I have an unhealthy obsession with books, films and pointy objects.  I tend to quote a lot.

5. I am a Tomboy at heart: cars, cricket, rugby and dirty jokes are my life. Otherwise it's horse riding, scuba diving, water-skiing and martial arts. Oh and perhaps a little politics thrown in the mix...

So there you have it, me in a nutshell. I'm sure I'll put something far less self absorbed to post the next time.